Parents are busy; there is no denying that. We've got our jobs, housework, family and social commitments, even our own goals. Understandably, it can be difficult to show up to every one of your child's games, recitals, and yet another excruciating trumpet performance - especially when you have multiple children. However, attending these events is important for your child's emotional and psychological development.
Here are just a few reasons why showing up for your child really matters.
Showing up builds confidence and self-esteem.
One of the greatest benefits of attending your child's games and performances is that it fosters confidence. According to ProActive Approaches (2023), children whose parents attend their performances tend to have higher self-esteem and feel more supported. When your child sees you cheering for them from the sidelines or clapping from the audience, they know their efforts are valued and recognized. This validation can encourage children to take risks and pursue their passions.
Showing up strengthens the parent-child bond.
Attending your child's competitions and performances also strengthens the bond you have with them. Showing up provides shared experiences that can create lasting memories and opportunities for meaningful conversations. The American Psychological Association (2014) emphasized that engaged parenting, like when we show interest in our child’s activities, fosters stronger emotional connections. These connections are essential for a child’s overall well-being and development (APA, 2014).
Showing up fosters a sense of belonging.
Being on a team, or a part of some other extra-curricular activity, often creates a sense of community for children. When parents show up to that, it reinforces their child's connection to that community. According to the Centre on the Developing Child (2024), children who feel they belong to a group are more likely to develop resilience and a sense of identity. By attending games and performances, you help your child feel like an important part of their school or team, which can enhance their social skills and emotional intelligence.
Showing up teaches commitment and responsibility.
When you prioritize attending your child’s activities, you model commitment and responsibility. Children learn by observing, and seeing you prioritize their events teaches them the importance of supporting and showing up for others. According to Dr. Laura Markham (2014), a clinical psychologist and parenting expert, showing up for your child instills values of dedication and loyalty, encouraging them to practice these behaviors in their relationships.
Showing up encourages emotional expression.
Performing, whether through acting, dancing, music or sports, offers children a unique platform for emotional expression. When parents are present for this, it validates their emotions and creative expressions. The Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry (2021) notes that emotional support from parents can help children navigate their feelings more effectively, leading to healthier emotional development.
Ultimately, in the grand scheme of things, missing a game or performance here and there, may seem like a small thing; but its impact can be quite profound. By showing up, you’re not just supporting their hobbies, you’re fostering their confidence, strengthening your bond, and teaching them valuable life lessons. So, the next time your child has a performance, remember that your presence means more than just being there - you’re playing an active role in their development and happiness.
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